Wednesday, 30 November 2016

Selfie Smile Vs Real Smile

Well folks, these days, selfie is in rage and so is the selfie smile. I love to see how people make their best efforts to get a perfect selfie. We make faces, have pouts, smile (sometimes weirdly) or pose differently to get the best shot. We are ready to do anything to add to the best effects to our selfie. Sometimes our efforts pay and sometimes they don't.

Now comes the next step and this is to upload our selfie on some social networking sites. This is followed by an elongated wait for our friends' complements and likes. Our endeavors seem to succeed if our posts receive expected (or unexpected) number of likes. If our posts don't grab the attention of the viewers, our endeavors fail due to which we feel apprehensive sometimes.

Have we ever thought how many extra endeavors, we make just to attract peoples' attention? How much time we spend in getting clicked?
But let me ask you what extra endeavors we make to get our minds and bodies relaxed or cheerful.

We all are familiar with the importance of a selfie. Very often, we end up investing a good amount of time trying to get the perfect click. A good effect can make our selfie stand out of the crowd but what should we do to get a good effect of our lives.
Let's smile at regular intervals and sometimes for no reason. Does it make any sense to you?

Let's smile at every small or big achievement. Let’s smile in the morning to express our gratitude towards the Almighty for giving us a new day. Let's smile when we all reach our offices safely.
We shouldn't forget to smile when our entire day passes smoothly without any conflict or clashes. I think many of us would have got tired to get these many reasons to smile but let's find out more reasons to smile. We have to smile when we get back home and find our family members and children waiting for us eagerly for us. Let's smile to pets wagging their tails to see us.

So, let me pen down by reminding you that selfie smile is significant because all of us wish to be at the center of attraction but this smile is fake and it disappears as soon as our pose is clicked.
To smile at each and every act which the Divine gets done brings the real smile on our faces. So let’s smile and spread its infection all over the world.

 Best Wishes!
Mamta Sharma
#MIRA (Mai.ra)
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Monday, 28 November 2016

Brighten Your Spirits and Succeed

If someone asks you what does brighten up your spirit, just think, what your answer would be. Which thing or person instills your lives with enthusiasm and happiness? What does uplift your spirit to do something which gets you to the next level? Is it your family, your passion, your work, your ‘me-time’, the smile of your little baby or the social service you do?
Just think and let your ‘self’ know about it and note it down in a journal.

No matter how old you are or where you are living or what kind of life you are leading to, what matters the most is how much willingness you have to raise the level of yourself, your life, and your happiness.

I urge you all to take out time to let yourself know about such fantastic things and feel the drastic transformation in your lives.  Many times when we feel low or uninteresting, we can surround us with such people or things which make us feel better.

If we really wish to move ahead in our lives, it's significant to gather positive things and people around us then only we'll be able to explore best in us. 

So criticizing the people, condemning the policies or things never ever make us to be at ease and to initiate something new in our lives. So it’s so vitally important for us to focus on the things which brighten our spirit and to work to transform our lives.
The New Year is about to knock at our doors and we must think about how we can be in a better situation with each passing day and for this we require to get rid of our habits of blaming others for something wrong in our lives. Let’s make this resolution to fill our hearts and lives with those who enhance the level of skills, attributes, happiness and lives.

Best Wishes!
Mamta Sharma
#MIRA (Mai.ra)

Sunday, 27 November 2016


Give Priority to Yourself to Live Successfully

Well folks, how are you all? Last month while having a discussion with one of my family members, I had to face his annoyance. He got angry with my statement which was ‘WE SHOULD LOVE OURSELVES MORE THAN ANYBODY ELSE.’ He said this thought showed my petty perception and self-contentedness. You won’t believe that the accusation made me dejected and disappointed and I left the room at once. Later, I kept thinking where I was wrong and why I was misinterpreted. After a contemplation of 2 hours, I found no change in my viewpoint. That small tiff steered me to write my today’s blog that ‘WE SHOULD LOVE OURSELVES MORE THAN ANYBODY ELSE.’
Now let me share the reasons why I have such an opinion. We’ve several concerns and responsibilities in our lives. We’re so trapped in them that sometimes, it becomes utterly tough for us to prioritize them. But on the basis of my experience, I can say that nothing matters as much as our own ‘selves’.


We can take care of our family, society, nation and the world if we’re physically, psychologically and emotionally healthy. But we take our health granted. We don’t hesitate to medicate ourselves as we wish to have instant relief. We swallow down the medicines for head ache, fever, depression, body ache etc without consulting any doctor. Most interestingly, sometimes we put our health issues on the back burner for very unimportant reasons.
We are unable to take out time for our hobbies or the things we wish to do for very long. I know a number of people who are minting money but they don’t have any vacation plans. Even they don’t prefer to take any offs for a family trip or outing. They give a lame excuse that they are earning and saving for their family but what about their own lives which is ticking away like time.
Age is Just an Increasing Number
We can find grownups babbling about how they want their children to fulfill their dreams as they have lived their life. Should we invest in our hobbies or dreams till we are young? Why can’t grownups have the same burning desire for their goals, dreams and visions? Age is just increasing number as it doesn’t have anything to do with our feelings and emotions.
We’re not Kids Anymore
We can hear people around us uttering this dialogue at regular intervals. To have an impulse or motive in our lives gives us a right direction to our lives. So do whatever we wish to do, visiting the places where we yearn to go, purchasing outfits which we love to wear doesn’t need us to be kids. Yes we’re not kids anymore still we have all rights to satisfy the kids which remains within us till our last breath.
So, let's love ourselves more than any one else so that we can scatter happiness everywhere.

Best Wishes!
Mamta Sharma
#MIRA (Mai.ra)

Saturday, 26 November 2016

Change Your Thoughts to Win!!!

Well Folks, have you ever thought, what do you do when don’t do anything? A bit confusing question! But still you need to find out the answer. So let me respond that we keep talking to our ‘selves’ when we are sitting idle.
The persistent chattering in our minds makes us uneasy and unhappy. We feel stressed out, irritated and depressed without knowing that such negative self-conversations ruin our mental peace.  We seem relaxed and quiet outwardly but we’re trapped in a whirlpool of thoughts. This seems unbelievable yet it’s significant for us to get familiar with the role of such interactions in our lives.
Let’s focus on what this self-talk is all about. When we notice, we will figure out that generally these self-talks are pessimistic and negative. negative self-talks on our well-being.
We keep blaming ourselves for the previous mistakes and failures etc. We keep uttering the negative declarations such as why my life is not as good as others’? I’m not lucky.  I don’t get the return of my hard work. Why are people so bad to me? Others are enjoying their lives but not I. So on and so forth. Let’s see the impact of such
·         Such negative self-talks make our attitude entirely negative.

       On account of negative self-talks, we form a poor self-image.
      They decrease our impulse to initiate something new in our life.
·         We affect our physical, mental, and psychological health drastically.
·         We develop the habits such as headache, depression, irritation, annoyance etc.
·         We lose our confidence and get scared of making decision.

·         We’re stressed out which keeps us at bay in our personal and professional life.             
·         A constant comparison of us with others increases the problems manifold.
·         We are addicted to the faulty habits which hinder us to succeed.
       We try to be gentle to others but never make our 'self'happy.
·         Unknowingly, we train our minds to not to think about positive things

But we never notice how drastically these negative self-talks affect us. Let me mention that we must cut out our negative self-talks for a successful personal and professional life.
·         We’ll have to replace our negative self-talks with the positive ones.

·         We must note down the positive self-declaration in journal every day.
·         This will lead to a positive change in our life.
·         We’ll have to pay heed to an inside out transformation for which we can practice meditation.
·    We should refrain from the company of negative or pessimistic people as they add to our problems.

·         We can have gratitude for what we have with us as this feeling makes us full of positivity.
·    First we’ll have to figure out our realistic goals and then we can work to acquire them strategically.

     We’re very concerned for each gadget which we’ve purchased. We learn how to use them and try our level best to handle them with care as according to us these gadgets are expensive and delicate. But what about our 'body'. Why are we least attentive towards our 'body' which is the most wonderful human mechanism. This neglect results in several physical, psychological and emotional problems within us and we, ignorantly, keep blaming the outside factors. Moreover, unintentionally, we train our minds negatively which makes our life a mess. According to the  Law of attraction, we attract the same negative happenings which we've been repeating constantly.So let’s learn to fill our minds with positive declarations

    Best Wishes
   Mamta Sharma,
#MIRA (Mai.ra)

Friday, 25 November 2016

10 Ways to Deal with Our inquisitive Colleagues


Man is a social animal. We all understand this universal fact. It's really tough for us to survive without any company. We love to be surrounded by people to share our pleasure and pain. Even in the professional world also, we have some formal and informal connections. Let me state what happens exactly at our workplaces. Generally, we are piled with loads of work and we look forward to our colleagues to have a mild chit-chat. This helps us to get rid of the monotony and tedium of a busy day. Apart from that, we feel blessed to have such companions who give their ear to listen to our professional or personal woes which keep bothering us continuously. 

But to our surprise, after two three days, we find that our secrets are leaked to several other colleagues whom we hardly know. Then we ruin many days in depression, anger, and guild of why we trusted that fellow and why we poured our heart to him/her. The most interesting part is the culprit remains confident and smiles to us brazenly when we encounter him.
So what should we do to deal with such nosy people? As it’s impossible to remain aloof at our workplace but we’ll have to set our boundaries while sharing something at our workplaces. So let me share 10 ways to deal with such people:

  • We’ll have to work on our emotional intelligence quotient. 
  •  Setting boundaries and interacting prudently will surely help us to overcome this problem. 
  • To vent our pent up frustrations, we must inculcate the habit of writing journal as this helps us up to certain extent to release our stress.
  • We must learn to recognize the right person. (Though it’s very difficult but practice makes a man perfect.)
  • We can limit our conversations to brief chats because a lengthy interaction gives more matter to such people.
  • We can set our goals for the day beforehand, so that we don’t have time to waste in frivolous chit-chat. 
  • We can download some motivational videos on our Smartphone which can rejuvenate us when we’re having food or sitting idle. 
  • We should be polite while conversing with inquisitive people.
  • Hilariously, we initiate our ice breaking conversation with our personal issues but while dealing with probing people, we must avoid talking about personal issues.

So, let’s follow the above way to stay away from the rumor mongers at our workplaces. But at the end I would like to say, we can’t control others yet we can control ourselves with a persistent practice. Let's enjoy the company of such people without letting them know.

Best Regards,
Mamta Sharma,
MIRA (Mai.ra)
 Reference: Sunday Times, Nov 6, 2016

Wednesday, 23 November 2016

Get Up, Smile, and Celebrate!!!

Last week, a horrendous accident occurred due to derailment near Kanpur in India. Hundreds of people died and innumerable got injured. Let’s just think about the victims and the survivors. All most all of them would have been sleeping as the accident took place in the wee hours. So, most of the people would have no idea what was going to happen the next second. We can understand it this way that those, who had their assigned work done, were called back by the Divine and those who still have responsibilities to bear or the tasks to accomplish are alive.

Let me mention, time is ticking away and so is the life! Shouldn’t we all have a reason to get up, smile, and celebrate because we’re still alive? Indeed…we do have. Let’s don’t waste our time to think about our grudges. Let’s muster our courage to get a head start after failures. Let’s smile while greeting ourselves and others. Let’s gear up for the next imperative assignment to really change the course of our life positively.
Probably, there’s a ting of melancholy in this piece of writing today. But there’s a reason behind this. Actually, I get sad to see people living their lives with pessimism and sorrows.Why are we suffering a lot? What kind of life are we experiencing? The answer is we all are living in the shadow of fear and until we let ourselves free from this trap of fear, it’s impossible to have reason to celebrate our life and to smile. So let’s create a life which is full ecstasy, enjoyment and vigor.

Sadguru, the mystique says, ‘Once our physical, emotional, energy, and thoughts are aligned in one direction, we become creators.’  But unfortunately we don’t understand the reasons of the complexities of life. We keep blaming the extrinsic factors for stirring our life. But the most interestingly, we, ourselves are the reason of the complexities in our lives. Is it possible to be the creator? Is it possible to live life devoid of stress, hustle and bustle and confusion? Yes…it is.
It’s possible if we have determination to transform our lives by spending some ‘ME TIME’.
Let’s manage our time to meditate to collect our thoughts, to explore the energy lying within and to a reason to celebrate our lives. I must mention here that 30 minute of mediation can create a magical touch in our life. It can help us to live beyond ourselves and to reach to the height which doesn’t have any pinnacle. So let’s have look at the following extraordinary aspects of meditation:

We acquire clarity of thoughts and our goals.

We live a life devoid of stress or apprehension.

We have an idea of what we really wish to accomplish at the end of the day.

We realize an inner source of intrinsic happiness which remains with us all the time.
We come across a never ending energy which removes the existence of impossibility from our life.

We feel ourselves free from fear. (Fear of death, losing someone, or something etc.)

‘The more you celebrate your life; the more there is in life to celebrate.’                                                                           Oprah Winfrey, Life Coach
Once we’re addicted to meditation, we have various reasons to celebrate our life.  Believe me life is wonderful if we are ready to transform ourselves, smile and to celebrate our lives.

Best Wishes!!
Mamta Sharma,
MIRA (Mai.ra)
Sunday Times, Oct 23, 2016

Sorry: Its Fading Sheen!!!

Sorry’ is a common word which we use frequently. This has become a ritual to say ‘Sorry’ for each trivial or giant fault which we make in our day-to-day life. Since our childhood, we have been trained to utter this magical word ‘Sorry’ as it shows that we’re well-mannered and full of repentance for our mistake. How pleasant it seems when we come across well-behaved people around us. But ironically, ‘Sorry’ has lost its significance and effect over the period of time.
Now we use this word mechanically like a parrot chants the name of God without being familiar with its magnitude. “‘Sorry’ has zero impact or meaning. It slides off glibly from too many tongues.’ 1. Let’s discuss how the use of ‘Sorry’ makes any difference.
1. ‘Sorry’ shows that we have a realization of our mistake.

2. It strengthens the relationship between two people and brings them closer.
3. It shows a person’s acknowledgement of his fault and determination to not to repeat it.
Why do people hesitate to say 'Sorry'.

* ‘Sorry’ energizes a relationship as it increases a person’s maturity level.
* But as I’ve already mentioned that with the changing time, ‘Sorry’ has also      stripped off its real magic. 
* Sometimes we feel that saying ‘Sorry’ will expose us to others. 
* Moreover, it seems that these days, ‘Sorry’ is a mere formality. 
* Apart from that, people have a high sense of superiority complex and they seem reluctant to say ‘Sorry’
* Many times, we know that we’re at fault but we’re ashamed to say ‘Sorry’ .
* Often, we’re unsure about the reaction of the person who is hurt because of our behavior.

Hence, it’s essential for us to understand that the realization of our mistake manifests in our behaviour not in chanting the word ‘Sorry’. 'Apologies are great, but they don’t really change anything. You know what does? Action.'        Stella Young, comedienne 2.

Let me mention that if we make some blunder, we can’t fix the damage just by saying ‘Sorry’. Saying ‘Sorry’ has lost its importance due to our casual attitude. ‘Sorry’ has no impact until we’ve empathy, acute introspection and emotional involvement in our words and actions.

Best Wishes!!
Mamta Sharma
#MIRA (Mai.ra)
Sorry seems to be the hardest word. Times Life, Sunday Times of India, October 2, 2016.
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