Sunday, 31 July 2016
Ask and You shall Receive!!!
How are you all? I have a very interesting thing to share with you all. Today, in the morning, while cleaning my house, I wished I could find an important paper which I had been searching for a long while. No sooner, I said this to myself, to my surprise, I saw it lying in front of me. All of a sudden, an idea flashed to me, had I asked for something else from the Almighty! Friends, don't you think, this often happens to all of us. We get upset or annoyed at our failures or the problems and we try all the tricks and ways to get rid of them. And interestingly, if we pray to God regarding our problems, we try to bribe Him with some attractive offer. Well, this is an excellent example of our lack of faith in Him. This is absurd and ridiculous.
So friends, my today's topic is Ask and you shall receive. Let me give you a testimony. One of my close friends was suffering of spinal tumor. She is a single mother and a school teacher. After she was diagnosed with her disease, she was advised to be on a complete bed rest. Doctors said that operation was the only cure and she should get ready to go under knife. Things became very tough for her as she was the only support to her family. Well, initially she got diffident and thought about the worst things which could happen to her, later she started praying to the Almighty. She, like a child to the Almighty, kept urging for His favor. She often would talk to God as if she was talking to her dead father. She prayed to Him day and night and boldly told Him to call her to His abode after her responsibilities get over. Eventually her condition started improving and even doctors were surprised to see the pace of improvement in her. May she live a long and healthy life! May God bless her and her family!
So friends, I just wish to say never ever lose your connection with Him as He, Himself desires to give you best life so ask Him for His favor and have faith that He is with you and will listen to your prayers.
So till our next meeting, take care of yourself, be healthy and happy. Love yourself and pray to the Almighty for each and everything as He wishes all His children to be full. Hence, don't hesitate to share your problems and ask Him to fulfill your desires. Have faith and see the miracle.
Saturday, 30 July 2016
Self-Image and Success!!!
Yesterday I met up a girl who used to live in my neighborhood several years back. I was glad to see her after a long time and I couldn't resist myself asking several questions about her life, family, and career. But my happiness couldn’t last for long, since the story she narrated was pathetic and heart-rending. Before sharing her story with you all, let me tell you something about the girl. She was a 25 year old spinster with dark complexion. She graduated in Home Science and was a vivacious person. But she had a weakness due to which she was not gratified with herself. Friends, she ruined her entire life and this was unbelievable that a young girl like her had lost charm for life. She was so diffident that she could believe everyone in the world except herself. Why? It was because she had a poor self-image. She was a gullible and used to perceive herself through the others' viewpoints. She considered herself worthless and a loser because she drew a picture of herself what she was told by others. She was unmarried because several boys refused to marry her and now she didn't have any future plan for life and career. Her family and siblings too were very rude to her. Throughout the day, she was busy cooking, doing house-hold chores for her family which always focused on her weaknesses. She attempted suicide twice but was saved, as if God was also not willing to allow her in His Kingdom.
Well friends, her story dejected me and I didn't know how to console her. I could see how rejection changes our life drastically. But why do we let others tell who we are, how we look, or how we should live.
What is Self-Image?
What does the term 'Self-image' refers to? According to dictionary, self-image is a portray one carries of one's abilities, appearance, and personality.
What happens when we have distorted self-image?
A person with low self-esteem lives his life in fear and depression.He doesn't believe himself and keeps looking for others' opinion. He becomes pessimist and reluctant to live. He keeps comparing himself with everyone as he feels inferior and insecure.
What should be done to revive confidence?
Well friends, life is not that tough. To get rid of our low self-esteem, we'll have to have a strong Emotional Quotient. E.Q. creates an ability which helps us to comprehend ourselves in the most positive way and to overcome our negative perception. The most important thing about E.Q. is that this skill can be learned and this learning may take place anywhere. What we need is to practice it constantly.
Replace I'm not good enough with I'm Good Enough
The people with distorted self-image keep replaying the negative instances again and again. They think about the people who drag them down and this worsens the situation. Friends, let me tell you that nobody is perfect in this world and it is more significant to focus on our strengths not on our weaknesses. We are God's creation and He has chosen us for a specific purpose, so we cannot doubt His intentions. So cut out your negative self-talks which prevent you from going ahead.
Build you Self-Belief
A person with no goals or vision, can't live his life successfully so it's important to inculcate some habits which give you happiness and self-satisfaction. Our success is hidden in our daily routine, therefore we'll have to get away from the habits which increases our self-pity. You can learn new skills, read motivational books, blogs, or can meditate which will definitely change the course of your life.
Start Writing Journal
Pen down what you yearn to be, what kind of life you wish to live and what do you expect from yourself. And then answer to you own questions and you also write down how you can achieve your goals. Just talk to yourself and make the strategies to stretch yourself to fulfill your dreams.
At the End
So till our next meeting, take care of yourself, be safe and healthy. Love yourself and value yourself the way you are. As you don't need to look up to others for living a magnificent life.
सफलता प्राप्त करने का आसान उपाय
आज की भागदौड़ वाली ज़िन्दगी में हम सब इतना फँस चुके हैं की हम भूल ही गए कि हमारे जीवन का उद्देश्य क्या है. मानव इच्छाएं असीमित हैं और उन्हें प्राप्त करने के लिए हम ज़्यादा से ज़्यादा मेहनत करने के लिए प्रयास करते हैं और इसतरह हम सिर्फ खुद तक ही सिमट कर रह गएँ हैं. आखिर कहाँ है सफलता? हम इसे कैसे प्राप्त कर सकते हैं?
दोस्तों, सिर्फ एक काम करना है. मै आपको एक बहुत आसान तरीका बताती हूँ. परंतु उसे आप सब से शेयर करने के पहले एक बहुत महत्त्वपूर्ण बात बताती हूँ. ये तरीका एक प्रक्रिया है जिसे हमे कॉन्स्टैंटली यानि लगातार प्रैक्टिस करते रहना पड़ेगा.
सबसे पहले हमें थोड़ी देर अकेले बैठना है और सोचना है की हम वास्तव में क्या चाहते हैं. हम दिन भर लोगों से घिरे रहते हैं और हमारे बारे में उनकी क्या ओपिनियन हैं यही सुनते और सोचते रहते हैं. और इस तरह से हम अपने आप को दूसरों की नज़र से देखने के अभ्यस्त हो जाते हैं. जैसे हम काले हैं, मोटे हैं, असफल हैं, आदि इत्यादि, तो कहने का आशय यह है कि हम अपने बारे में क्या सोच रखते हैं, ये जानना बहुत ज़रूरी है. हममें से ज़्यादातर को मालूम ही नहीं कि वो किस तरह के व्यक्ति हैं और दोस्तों, इस तरह की मानसिकता हमारी सफलता के मार्ग में रुकावट है... एक बहुत बड़ी रुकावट. तो अकेले बैठिये और खुद के बारे में एकदम सही निर्णय लीजिये कि आप सच में किस तरह के व्यक्ति हैं.
इस प्रक्रिया का दूसरा चरण है ये सोचना कि आप क्या चाहते हैं. मेरा तात्पर्य है कि आप क्या अचीव करना चाहते हैं. याद रखें आप को वो नहीं सोचना है जो आप के परिवार वाले आपको बनाना चाहते हैं, आपको वो सोचना है जो आप खुद बनना चाहते हैं.यह आपकी सफलता में बहुत ज़रूरी योगदान देगी.
तीसरा चरण है की आप खुद को जांचे क्या हम जो भी बननना चाहते हैं वैसा बनने की क़ाबलियत वास्तव में हमारे अंदर है या नहीं। अगर है तो मानसिक तौर पर अपने आप को तैयार करके जुट जाएँ अपने लक्ष्य को प्राप्त करने में. और अगर आप स्वयं को लक्ष्य पाने में कमतर पाते हैं तो बिलकुल भी परेशांन न हो और अपने ज्ञान और व्यक्तित्व को अपने लक्ष्य के अनुरूप बनाने में लग जाएँ. ये चरण थोड़ा मुश्किल और बोरिंग है परंतु अगर आप थोड़ा सा धैर्य रख लें तो ये बिलकुल भी असंभव नहीं है. सफल लोग अगर सफलता के शिखर पर हैं तो उन्होंने ये प्रक्रिया ज़रूर अपनायी होगी.
अपने आत्म-विश्वास पर ज़रूर ध्यान दे. देखें कि आप दूसरों से बात करते समय क्या उन्हें कंविंस कर पातें हैं या नहीं. और अगर नहीं तो आपको अपने व्यक्तित्व और ज्ञान पर ध्यान देने की आवश्यकता है. वो सारी किताबें जो आपको नयी दिशा देती हैं उन्हें पढ़िए। वो कोर्सेज जो आपकी प्रतिभा को निखार सकते हैं उन्हें ज्वाइन करिये. अपने व्यक्तित्व को और अच्छा करने के लिए मनी इन्वेस्ट करिये।
मेरी मोटिवेशनल क्लासेज के दौरान, लोग मुझसे अपनी प्रोब्लेम्स शेयर करते हैं जैसे बहुत मेहनत करने के बावज़ूद भी उन्हें सफलता नहीं मिलती तो मै उन्हें यही बताती हूँ कि उन्हें अपने अतीत से निकल कर वर्तमान में रहना सीखना होगा और दूसरी बहुत ज़रूरी बात ये है कि उन्हें अपने बड़े बड़े लक्ष्य पाने के लिए कुछ छोटे-छोटे लक्ष्य बनाने होंगे. और पॉजिटिवली उन लक्ष्य को पाने के लिए प्रयत्न होगा.
अपने आस-पास सकारात्मक लोगों को पहचानना होगा अगर कोई भी हमारे अंदर नकारात्मक भाव उत्पन्न करता हो तो हमे उससे दूर रहना ही होगा.
दोस्तों, याद रखे कि हमारा जीवन जैसा भी है उसके ज़िम्मेदार हम खुद हैं, अगर हम अपनेआप को बदलने के लिए दृढ-प्रयत्न हैं तो कोई भी हमे रोक नहीं सकता. तो मेरी शुभकामनायें आप सब के साथ हैं. सकारात्मक विचारों के साथ अपने आप को बदलेने में लग जाएँ और मेरा विश्वास करें आपकी पूरी लाइफ बदल जाएगी क्योंकि सफलता के लिए बस हमे अपनी आदतें और विचारों को बदलने की ज़रुरत है.
तो अब मुझे अपने विचारों को विराम देने की आज्ञा दें. अगले ब्लॉग में फिर कुछ नयी चर्चा के साथ मिलेंगे.
Friday, 29 July 2016
Do you have a vision for your dreams? If your answer is positive then it shows you are heading towards your goals but if you’ve not given any thought to your dreams then unfortunately, you forget about immense success. As we don’t stumble upon our success all of a sudden, it happens because we plan and make strategies to achieve it.
Last week while conducting a session on Personal and Professional Enhancement, I asked my audience about their dreams but surprisingly there was not a single answer in a room, consisting 45-50 graduating students. Such casual behaviour of budding talent devastated me. Why can’t we’ve burning desire for our careers? Why don’t we have a clear vision of our goals?
Design You Future
Jim Rohn says, "Happiness is not something you postpone for the future; it is something you design for the present." Well, why are we not energetic or cheerful because we have not designed our dreams so far. Let me say that due to vague ideas about our goals, most of us are not gratified with our personal and professional lives and the pace of their growth.
So how can we change our lives, believe me folks, it's very simple. Design your future. Let me elaborate on this point...while building a house, we make proper strategies from designing map to vastu shashta, from colour of walls to type of furniture to be kept there. So why do we become so casual at the time of designing our future which lays the foundation of happiness and prosperity.
Take Care of Yourself
Folks, our personality assessment is mandatory and it must be prioritise. We must take care of our body and mind.
Take care of your body. It's the only place you have to live. Jim Rohn
Health guarantees a successful career. And in all my blogs, I mention that we all should love ourselves. People often misinterpret as according to them love for self shows one's selfishness. But just think about the flip side of this perception: if we are healthy then only we will take care of others. We do a lot for others so why not to be a bit self-centred for living a healthy life. I have been already practising this routine since a long time and I wish you all too, to get up early to exercise and meditate to substantiate your life.
Prepare yourself for the Upcoming Opportunities
Luck is Preparation Meeting Opportunity
Folks, we are impatient as we are reluctant to wait. We wish to have instant magical overnight transformation in our lives which never happens. So my advise is preparing ourselves for the upcoming opportunities. We may have caught in turbulent and chaos but we shouldn't lament it. There's a day after every night, there's a spring after every winter as this is nature's law. If not today, tomorrow will be ours. Luck is nothing but preparing us for the moments to come. Oprah says, "...luck is preparation meeting opportunity. If you hadn't been prepared when the opportunity came along, you wouldn't have been 'lucky."' So we must prepare ourselves for the next opportunity by improving our skills.
Acquire Skills to be Confident and Cheerful
Presently, I feel that each and everyone must have few qualities such as well-versed in public speaking, convincing or negotiating, and knowledge of a foreign language, knowing how to play a musical instrument.
So the success of our life lies in the vision of our dreams. Just think what you wish to acquire throughout your life. Prepare yourself for the achievement of your dreams and keep reminding yourself of your dreams constantly. Chant it like a mantra as this habit firms your belief in self.
At the End
So till our next meeting, take care, be safe, healthy and happy. Love yourself and vision your dreams, feel them, and keep reminding yourself that you have to fulfil them as it's not impossible.
Thursday, 28 July 2016
How to Save Flying Time and Money??? Part 1
In the present scenario, we all have two common problems. Could you please guess which two problems, I’m talking about? Yes, you are right…these two problems are lack of Time and Money. We can easily come across people complaining about how they are grappling hard to stop their hard-earned money and precious time. So what should be done to save money and time? Then how can we achieve the ultimate goal of our life which is happiness and prosperity?
What to do
Friends, sit down for a while and just ponder about your earnings, expenses, and the time span you invest and kill. Indeed, this calculation is vital to evaluate where we stand at this juncture and how we can make a balance. I mean, every single month, we keep waiting and dreaming for our payday and surprisingly, no sooner it arrives, it flies away and leaves us waiting miserably for the next one.
It is said that cut the coat according to your cloth but now it is not possible since our necessities are more than our earnings. Our basic needs of food, clothes, and shelter have been replaced by dinning in expensive restaurants, branded attires, and comfortable flats which are followed by frequent outings and several other small and big demands.
Where do we get wrong?
However, there's nothing wrong as people have very busy schedule throughout the week and they need to relax and rejuvenate on weekends. So let's get back to the point with which we commenced our discussion. Suppose we earn 50,000/- per month and at the end of the day, we happen to spend the entire amount and save nothing, we should get prepared to juggle with innumerable problems. We are in want again as we are not able to save a single penny.
What happen due to these problems
Several people are struggling against these problems. Most of them spend their entire lives in earning, cutting their expenses, living ordinary lives and getting dejected at the end of the day. Phew...very serious problem. No plans for retirement, travelling, or Education, medical, and marriage expenses worsens the situation. A sudden unexpected misshaping mars the entire happiness as it leads to a sudden financial burden. In our country, still we have a great population which is not medically insured.
What should be done
We'll have to keep record
This should be followed like a ritual. What is our income? Though it's a silly question to talk about since everybody knows how much he/she is earning. But I want you to think about the whole amount which comes into your bank account at the starting of every month. Make sure you save 20% of your entire earning. It sounds very tough but we can be habitual after practicing every month.
Why the Money Flies
Friends, the problem is not how much we earn but how much we spend every month. Let me share my own experience with you all. It was my daily routine to have either coffee or juice along with a burger or chips at my workplace. One pack of juice or coffee costs Rs. 20/- and very often I would purchase extra packs for my colleagues as well. So, many a time, my cafeteria bill exceeded Rs 2,000/-. Then one day, I decided not to spend money on junk food and juices because it would affect my health and finance very badly. So friends, we often spend lots of money on these unhealthy habits unknowingly and don't see the flying money.
At the End
It's time to wind up my conversation with you. I'll surely discuss the remaining points in my next blog, so take care, be safe, healthy, and happy. Love yourself and observe where your money goes, as it's significant to know for our better future.
Wednesday, 27 July 2016
Don’t be Afraid of Your Enemies
We keep fighting against outside factors
Well friends, As soon as, we come across the word 'enemy'...we are filled with disgust and abhorrence. Nobody wishes to have enemies around him but life is not possible without them. We've variety of enemies and they are omnipresent. So, we'll have to learn how to defeat them or they will kill us. Enemies are threat to the political boundaries, social structure, culture, and personal lives etc. There’s chaos and suspicion all around. Our imagination of Utopia has shattered because of these enemies only. So we all seem scared and insecure and in order to lead to a peaceful life, we take several precautions from putting thorny hedges to installing web cams.
Our Real Foes
Hang on, I'm coming down to the gist of my blog which is about how to deal with enemy to have tranquility and peace of mind. But friends, what about our inner foes. Why the heck we let them keep troubling us. Why don't we kill them? It is said that we should love our enemies but this doesn't work in this context. I'm talking about our foes like our insecurity, lack of confidence, inferiority complex, procrastination, lack of commitment, lies, self-pity so and so forth. This list is really a never ending list. So friends, what do we do to heal ourselves against these real enemies who don't let us live our life to its full.
What to do to Overcome our Inner Foes
Friends, the vitality of our life lies in growth which can't be acquired until and unless we figure out where we are lacking. Hence, it's significant to recognise what are the factors that prevent us from moving ahead. We'll have to be accountable to save us against our weaknesses and insecurities which are more dangerous than the outside enemies. To excel in our lives and to achieve success, we'll have to take pains. We can set small goals to achieve the bigger goals. We must journal our daily experience so that we can understand our problems and also the solution to those problems. We must train ourselves to achieve success which is possible but needs rigorous practice.
At the End
So till our next meeting, take care, be healthy and happy. Love yourself and get ready to kill your enemies because they are more dangerous than those who are present outside.
Tuesday, 26 July 2016
You should not…you must
Friends, how are you all? What’s new? Well, when does a person transform himself? What clicks him to ponder about altering himself or his habits? The answer is a moment when our conscience starts guiding us.
As a motivational trainer, I keep inspiring people to condition themselves. I narrate stories so that they may condition themselves but probably they don't convince my listeners always? Sometimes after my sessions get over, a few come to me to share how drastically they are determined to change themselves. I become overjoyed to be the reason for the positive change in society yet it’s not a very frequent phenomenon. I know that it’s a gradual change but it will show up some day.
So today, I would like to discuss why 'you should replaces you must' and why it is that significant in our life. Well, we may have different goals and skills but our ultimate destination is a life full of happiness and devoid of any catastrophe.
We all aspire to progress and grow with the flying time however due to our mistakes and unwillingness to remould ourselves results into crisis and mess all around.I mean we all are addicted to our negative situations and what truly beats me is despite our knowledge that we should take care of ourselves, we should have healthy habits, we should lose weight, and we should go for a morning walk etc but how many of us are really able to instil these things.
A Real Story
Let me share a real instance with you. I know a person who was a chain smoker. He was a textile engineer and was in a good job, belonged to a well-to-do family, had a wonderful family yet was unable to change his habit. He was advised by his well-wishers, family members, especially by his mother to quit his habit but that couldn't help. One day this person received a shocking news that his mother was diagnosed with blood cancer and was at the verge of dying. This shattered him like anything as he'd a strong bond with her and he owed all his success and progress to his mother. He consulted several doctors regarding his mother’s problem and later she was referred to Tata Memorial Hospital, Mumbai. It was her last stage but he made all efforts to get her cured. During his mother’s treatment in that hospital, he came across innumerable patients who were suffering from this deadly disease because of intake of tobacco. Having seen their pathetic and miserable condition, he got perturbed or rather petrified to think about his own future. At that very moment, he decided to give up his habit of smoking. Though his mother is not with him now yet he is a changed person as he said no to his addiction. So that decision transformed his life drastically.
Right and Timely Decision
So friends, a right and timely decision can change the way we are. It can change our entire personality and life as well. Why successful people have carved a niche because of their decisions which they made earlier. So Search your 'musts'…I mean you should not rely ‘should’ but you 'must' as the big decisions start with small decisions which transform our life eventually. Success is not an overnight sensation, it takes years to happen and our conscious decision help us to achieve it.
Five Points to Pull us Through our tough Time
Convince: It's no good to look up to others for what they think about us so we must convince ourselves who we are and what we want to be. I mean we must know about strengths and weaknesses and it's not that difficult. We must vision our success and must work to make that vision a reality.
Command: We mustn't let the pessimism, difficult situations, or negative occurrences and people command us since this is our life and we've all rights to take its charge. We might not get success initially but repetition helps us to excel in our actions.
Conquer: We must conquer our fear of failures, hindrances, crisis or defects in our personality. To succeed and go ahead, it's vital to overcome all these threats.We must dare them and see the change.
Condition: Nobody is perfect in this world so we must keep conditioning us as perfect individuals. Updating our knowledge, skills, or acquiring expertise will indeed guide us towards our success. In case, we don't have time to join a university to pursue a course, we can join a MOOC or online courses such as conducted by coursera.com.
Charismatic: Charismatic individuals are steered by their commitment to their cause. They are confident, assertive, energetic, and ready to learn. Once we're all set to showcase our talent, it's important to evaluate ourselves if we've that charisma in us.
At The End
So till our next meeting, take care of yourself, be safe, healthy, and happy. Love yourself and follow the five Cs to prepare yourself to compete in the world successfully.
Monday, 25 July 2016
Who Else but We are our own Cheerleaders
Friends, how are you all? Well, I become overwhelmed to think about the amazing gift of the Almighty to me and this gift of Life. So do we have some goals for a better life? If yes…then what strategies do we have to achieve these goals? Well, while seeing others going ahead in their lives, we moan and blame our stars for not favouring us but let me tell you that we, ourselves will have to be our own cheerleaders. We cannot expect from others, the outside situations, and our fortune to be by our side for a better life. So today I wish to discuss how we can be our own cheerleaders to motivate ourselves for a remarkable life.
Mind as a Magnet
We all know how a magnet works. I mean the magnetic field in it attracts ferrous objects like iron, steel, nickel, and cobalt etc. Don’t worry, I still remember what I am supposed to discuss here :). Our mind, like a magnet attracts the things, it thinks about. I mean if your mind is filled with negativity and disgust, it will attract the same feelings from outside. If it is full of jealousy and contempt, it will receive the similar response from its surroundings. We, sometimes, become habitual of repeating our nightmares or appalling experiences and hence we are not able to overcome those situations. Eventually, we end up creating an entirely unenthusiastic and unproductive aura around us.
Life has a Validity
A mentor and senior colleague of mine often says, “Our life is like a pre-paid card which has its validity for a certain period of time. Suppose you are 20 year old at this juncture, you are left with only about 2500 weekends to enjoy.” So here we are. Where is the time to wait for some pied piper? We have already wasted a quality time of ours in repeating the same mistakes and focusing on what others think or say about us.
Conscience as a Kalpvrichh
Yes, I agree that we may not be doing well at this time. Probably it’s a low phase in our lives. But we don’t have to be disheartened or dejected since while doing nothing, we can prepare ourselves for the next opportunity which is on its way to us. We all have heard about kalpvrichh which was believed to fulfil all our wishes, and believe me there’s such a feature hidden in us if we set our goals, recognise our calibre, and work accordingly, we certainly will attract success.
Just Listen to the Inner Voice
Well, we all should sit lonely for sometime so that we can listen to our inner voice. Making short positive conversation with our selves may usher us towards our destination. Our conscience lets us know how to deal with the tough time. But we always love to be surrounded by several people and ignore the divine voice. So we shouldn't be in hurry each and every moment, as sometimes it is good to peep inside rather than looking up to others while searching for a solution.
At the End
So till our next meeting, take care, be happy and healthy. Love yourself and be your own cheerleader so that nothing can prevent you from fulfilling your dreams and to live a life of happiness and prosperity. Kindly watch the video 'Stay Hungry...stay foolish' which gives an extra ordinary message.
Sunday, 24 July 2016
Short Cut to Success
Friends, do we have any short cut to success? Just think what it may be. Why is success reserved for a very few people of the world? What about the remaining ones who are in millions and billions. Why don’t they have any right to lead magnificent lives? Are they not lucky? So what should we do to improve the quality of our lives? Can unethical ways and manipulation help us to do so? I know you are bewildered to read this sentence of mine but hold on…have patience and read the remaining text, you will find the answers to all your questions.
For this is an era of acquiring instant gratification. There is short cut to each and everything, from instant food to instant beauty products. We have become impatient and we wish to get instant result. So let me tell you that there is a short cut to success and this is within our reach.
Use Negative Experiences as Mentor
The very first step in this entire procedure is to use our negative experiences as our mentors. The world desires to listen to the success stories. Since our childhood, we are trained to win not to lose but even this tendency does not reduce the significance of failure stories. In fact we all hate failures but in this bizarre method, we all will have to get prepared to confront our failures. We can come across several successful people narrating their life stories which are the testimonies of how they learnt from their failures.
Stop Listening to Others
The second step is to transform our entire personality…but how? For this, we’ll have to explore ourselves. We will have to take out time to be alone for some time so that we may ponder about what we want, where we are lacking. Why are we not able to fulfill our dreams? Friends, we look our personality through others’ perception which never rates our caliber correctly. This either leads to under-evaluation or under-evaluation.
Stop Complaining and Take Responsibility
Friends, in our pursuit of success, we seem reluctant to take up responsibility for our wrong decisions. If we are not gratified with our jobs, our financial condition, pace of growth, or any other thing in our life, we can't hold others responsible. Why do we keep comparing our achievements with others. It's crystal clear that others have more guts than we have and hence they are more successful.
Jim Rohn, the American motivational leader says, ‘Success is not something you pursue, success is something you attract.’ And how can we attract success…we can attract it by becoming the deserving people.
At the End
Well friends, this list of short cut to success is very long but it's time to wrap up. So till our next meeting, take care, be happy and healthy. Love yourself and don't forget to take this short cut for your golden success.
Saturday, 23 July 2016
सफल बनने की दिशा में पहला कदम
कैसे हैं लोग? कभी कभी सफल लोगों को देख कर लगता है कि वो लोग सफल होने के लिए क्या करते हैं. कभी कभी तो लगता है कि उनकी किस्मत बहुत अच्छी है इसीलिए शायद सफलता उनके पीछे चलती है. कभी कभी लगता है कि शायद सफल लोगों को काम करने की ज़रुरत ही नहीं है. अंग्रेजी में कहते हैं Some people are born with silver spoon in their mouths. लेकिन दोस्तों ऐसा नहीं है. अगर हम सफल लोगों के जीवन के बारे में पढ़े तो पता चलता है कि उनकी लाइफ बिलकुल भी वैसी नहीं है जैसा कि हम सोचते हैं. जब भी आपको समय मिले तो ऐसे लोगों की लाइफ के बारे में ज़रूर पढ़ियेगा.
तो अब सवाल उठता है कि हम कैसे सफल बने. कहते हैं No pains no gains. यानि बिना कुछ किये कुछ भी हासिल नहीं होता.
सुबह जल्दी उठे. मैंने कहीं पड़ा था कि सक्सेसफुल लोग सूरज निकलने के २ घंटे पहले ही उठ जाते हैं. It's really difficult. अगर हम थोड़ा भी सजग हो जाएँ तो यह बिलकुल भी असम्भव नहीं है. सुबह जल्दी उठने से हम बड़े ही आराम से अपना काम सकते हैं. न तो हमे लेट होने की प्रॉब्लम होगी और न ही ट्रैफिक ज़्यादा होने पर अपनी गाड़ी ज़्यादा स्पीड में दौड़ाएंगे.
सुबह उठ कर सिर्फ ५-१० मिनट्स के लिए मेडिटेशन करें और १० मिनट तक एक्सरसाइज करें। हो सकता है कि शुरू में हमें प्रॉब्लम हो परंतु जल्दी ही हम इसके अभ्यस्त हो जायेंगे.
फिर १-२ गिलास गुनगुना पानी पियें. पानी स्वास्थ्य के लिए बहुत ही अच्छा होता है.
एक बार पूरी दिनचर्या के बारे में ज़रूर प्लान कर लें जिससे हमारे सारे काम बिना किसी हड़बड़ाहट के आसानी से हो सकें. अंग्रेजी में कहते हैं, Well begun is half done. अगर किसी काम की शुरुआत अच्छी हो तो समझना चाहिए कि वह आधा पूरा हो गया है. अर्थात उसकी सफलता निश्चित है.
पॉजिटिव रहें और खुश रहें। हमेशा याद रखिये कि लोग भी खुश रहने वाले लोगों के पास रहना पसंद करते हैं. सफल बनने की प्रक्रिया स्वयं से शुरू होती है. तो पहले अपनी आदतें बदलनी होंगी फिर हम अन्य बातों पर ध्यान देंगे.
अगर जीवन को सार्थक बनाना है तो समय का सदुपयोग करने की आदत डालनी पड़ेगी. मेरा ये ब्लॉग सक्सेसफुल बनने के लिए उठाया गये पहले कदम के बारे में बताता है.अगले ब्लॉग में फिर से कुछ महत्वपूर्ण बातों पर चर्चा होगी.
अंत में आप सभी को मेरा नमस्कार।
Change your Habits and succeed in your Life!!! Part 2
Well friends, let me continue with our yesterday’s conversation about how we can change our entire life positively, if we decide to change our habits. We know very well that bad habits are very easy to learn but hard to live with. So coming down to the further significant points, I would draw your attention towards how to excel at this life transforming skill. Along with the regular meditation and exercise, embarking on a healthy, nutritious diet help us to win the half battle since we’ve subconsciously commenced our preparation for a successful life.
Personal Philosophy (Change your Attitude)
Yesterday is history, tomorrow is mystery and today is a gift. Our attitude or personal philosophy lays a concrete foundation for our successful future. Many a time, I come across people who keep replaying their past instances and experiences. On account of which they neither enjoy their present nor do they plan for a better future. Friends, we must wrap our past up for our physical and mental well being. Despite the fact that we cannot control several undesired occurrences, we can just acquire the expertise to handle them skillfully.
We can live our life to its full if we don’t carry our past like a burden; rather we should use our past experiences like a mentor which prevents us from making the past mistakes in our future endeavors.
During my sessions in different cities, I find many people blames their organisations for not paying them up as per their skills or responsibilities and my response is same always as I suggest them to change their attitude, to make them valuable for their jobs. If we change our habits, we can change our lives.
Reading and Journal your Thoughts
I see my graduating and post graduating students reluctant to read in their pastime as they think they don’t have time to go through the books other than their study material. Francis Bacon, the father of the English essays mentions, “Reading maketh a full man.” Therefore if we make the books our companions, we will surely enrich our knowledge which ushers us to the right destination.
Journaling our thoughts is also a very essential and extolled habit. If we have some plan or important thought, we can pen it down as we can’t trust our memory always. We can write down our inner thoughts which can be acquired afterwards.
Travel the World and enhance your Knowledge
Travel is more than the seeing of sights; it is a change that goes on, deep and permanent in the ideas of living.
In the present scenario, almost all of us have two common features: being workaholic and shopaholic. We all aspire to obtain facilities to live an easy life. But I have experienced that our investment in travelling gives us a never ending happiness. Well, what I feel that travelling new places, seeing new cultures, and meeting new people can improve us individuals. While travelling we leave our past behind and spend a quality time with our family members who are deprived of our company because of our busy schedules. So those who love to be within their comfortable, grand houses should decide upon their next holiday destinations.
Well friends, try to observe your routine so that you can figure out the habits which don't let you move ahead and once you are able to do so, you will attract your success like a magnet.
So, till our next meeting, take care, be safe and healthy. Love yourself and replace your bad habits with the good ones.
Bye Mamta Sharma